The truth is, I’ve been wracked with anxiety since last week. My mind is scattershot and my shoulders rock-stiff. The dark side of caffeine dependency rears its ugly head: I’ve got the mental jitters. Plus, tomorrow I’m hosting a Roundtable Workshop, something I’ve never done before. The topic is workplace negotiation. I’m nervous.
All things considered there is nothing to be nervous about. I have a great group of fabulous and competent women who are co-facilitating the workshop. They are the kinds of people I want to keep as friends, because they are smart, good people whose intellectual curiosity and genuine generosity enrich everyone they touch. I admire each and every one of them for their spunk, their articulacy, and for making the #GetYourWorth events a possibility.
I’m equally impressed with the participants of Get Your Worth event series. I wish you could have seen what I saw from the vantage point of a moderator – bridging the audience to speakers – at the October panel event. I was struck by the sheer enthusiasm and eagerness with which the audience participated in the discussion around workplace negotiation. Many of them will return tomorrow to practice the lessons from October’s discussion: that you can ALWAYS ask for more for yourself and that by first considering the counterpart’s interest and preparing with sound logic, you can achieve a win-win negotiation success.
Talking the talk and listening to that talk is easy. Walking that talk is another thing, altogether.
It is, in fact, scary.
Asking for a promotion or raise is scary, more so if you are a woman, because you may be afraid to step on toes, come off as “too aggressive,” or ruin relationships. That’s why practice is important – to help overcome the fear and anxiety associated with negotiation, especially for women.
I’m proud and impressed by the 40 or so women (and a few good men) who committed their valuable time and effort to practice doing something as scary as negotiating for themselves in the workplace.
As has been said, doing something that scares you on a daily basis is good for you, like taking regular twenty-minute walks and eating your vegetables. I’m grateful for this juicy opportunity to tackle two scary things at once with an enviable group of co-facilitators and participants. The two things, for me, being hosting a Roundtable Workshop for the first time and practicing advocating for myself in the workplace.
Now I have a great feeling this is going to be another smashing event.